I think there are many people who think they don't belong....
I too wonder, "What is my place?" and I am vague about the definition.
But when I thought about it, I realized that it is easy to create a place for yourself in this world as much as you want.
It's easy to create your own place.
This is a bit philosophical.
I realized that making a place for yourself can be as easy as you want it to be.
Oh, not at all, it's not a big deal.
Home is a place, family is a place, and a place in relation to friends. A line group is also a place. If you are connected to Twitter, that is your place as an exchange.
For example, if you comment during someone's YouTube livestream and make acquaintances through that, the livestream becomes a place to be.
I guess it depends on how you look at it, but you can create a place physically (or offline?). But it is also possible to create a place like this online. The! It's the way to have a place to be in this day and age.
And, you know, if you make a number of such places, you don't have to stick to one place and you don't have to depend on it.
If you depend on one place, you'll have a hard time finding another.
I have always preferred to be alone and avoided group activities. I was also a bit of an innocent, and I didn't like the idea of being in a group with everyone else.
I am also strangely cautious about socializing. I like to move around as I please, so I like to do things alone, and I don't want to go clothes shopping or with others. I don't want to go clothes shopping with other people. I have lived my life with such a stance. I don't want to go shopping for clothes with other people.
But, you know, I don't want to live completely alone. I want to interact with people from time to time.
I realized that I can create many places (i.e., places to stay) on the Internet where I can interact in a way that is convenient for me.
But most online interactions are for one's own convenience, logging in when one wants to log in and not thinking about what's best for the other person.
I will respond to some degree as a human being, but that's just the level of care I normally give offline, so it doesn't bother me.
It is easy to have a place where you can listen to the complaints of others who are not as close to you as in real life, but at a good distance. It allows me to vent.
A place where you can show your different self as it is. It is a place where you can socialize with people casually, with the option of deleting your account if you get tired of it. (That doesn't mean I'm going to be aggressive! (Although there may be people who use it that way.)
The Internet space is also a place where you can be yourself, without company relationships or private ties.
You don't need their permission or anything, and the place where you interact is already a place where you belong.
If I become a youtuber, for example, I think that place is also a place for me.
You can create any number of such places on the Internet, and Twitter is a place for everyone. You can complain about things you normally can't say to other people, or talk about your true feelings. If you get tired of it, you can lock your account and leave easily.
If you have a number of such places to stay, as I said before, you can disperse your dependence.
Besides, the relationships with people differ depending on where you are, so it is a good change of pace, and it is stimulating and enjoyable to hear different opinions.
I think this is something to look forward to every day!
I think about this every time we talk about where we are, but don't we sometimes only think in terms of a small area?
Ah.from nowjust a minuteThis may be off topic.
There was a time when I blamed myself for changing jobs so many times.I quit after 5 months with the company.Time and so on.
It was a time when the fewer the number of job changes, the better. Every time I changed jobs, I was told "Why did you quit in such a short period of time? Every time I changed jobs, I was told "Why did you quit after such a short period of time?
But that's because in my head I thought, "Most people who change jobs a lot have a hard life afterwards.
I thought there was no place for these people to be active. (Although there may be more places for people who have changed jobs less frequently.)
But now that I think about it, there are so many people who have changed jobs so many times and are still living their own lives and living happily ever after. I, too, have changed jobs many times, but I am satisfied with my life now.
So, because I did not know that such people existed, because I did not know that there was such a world, I was thinking only in terms of stereotypes.
The world as I see it.Just a small areaIf you change your gaze for a moment, you can see an infinite number of different worlds.
I noticed this thanks to someone somewhere on YouTube.
Something like, YouTubers who say a lot of motivational stuff.
That where you are right now is just a tiny, tiny, tiny place in the world. It's like there are so many places in this world when you get out of it.
It's pretty philosophical, but I thought it was true.
There is no such thing as living only here. There is no such thing as being able to live only here.
When I hear it now, I think, "That's true, isn't it?" But at the time - it was quite a shock.
We are thinking too narrowly.
A place to stay is not about belonging to some formal community or becoming a member, nor is it a place created by a partner.
It is easier to connect with people around the world online than offline, and this is quite useful for relieving stress.
When I was having a lot of trouble changing jobs, I wished I had created a number of places on the Internet where I could release such stress... I think a little bit.
If you feel like you don't belong here, you don't belong here.
Just change it.
I used to think, "It can't be that easy," but I really don't want to! Not here! I would have acted on my own.
I have changed. I changed my work place and my private life. I felt uncomfortable and it was hard for me.
(I'm not trying to pressure you to think that because I could do it, you can do it too.)
I realized that the reason why I don't move even though I know I don't belong here is because I have accepted it. My body was going to give out on me, and I couldn't do it anymore! I really thought, "I can't do this anymore," so I didn't hesitate anymore.
I don't like it here!" That's because your mind is rejecting it. And if you continue to ignore it, it is like whipping your body.
You can only protect your own life, body, and mind (I'm convinced of this because of my near mental collapse).
So, I feel like I've gone off on a tangent, but I was just talking about how easy it is to create a place for yourself.
On the other hand, I think it is also something that can be easily broken. But that's okay.
I believe that it is okay to stay in a place so lightly that you can easily make a place for yourself and leave if you don't feel you fit in.