Who do you talk to about changing jobs? My experience of asking for advice after 3 months in the company and it became harder and harder [story].

Experienced career change consultants Work/Job Change

Who should I talk to about changing jobs?

I think I would be very lost.

This time I would like to talk about the time when I was wondering whether I should change jobs and asked around for advice. It was about 3 or 4 months after I joined the company.

Conclusion.I'd like to talk about "maybe you shouldn't talk to people who are in the same workplace, in the same situation, or who have never changed jobs before.

In my own experience, the more I consulted with them, the harder and harder it became to breathe.

Thanks to a mishap with a consultant.

When I asked about changing jobs, I was told that I should not change jobs and that it would be a waste of my time and effort to get a job offer.

I joined the company I graduated from.I quit after only 5 months and changed jobs.

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How I feel But I ended up quitting after 5 months - How I feel
When I was job hunting as a new graduate, I had the experience of applying to 50 companies and failing. What I want to talk about here is not to make some weird boast that I failed 50 companies, but about how I ended up quitting after less than six months, even though I worked so hard on job hunting.

At this time, theIt's only been five months.You were in a lot of trouble before you decided to quit, and you consulted with others.

I'm thinking of changing jobs."

I confided so to those around me. Mainly my peers in the same company and older colleagues close to my age.

Then everyone around me

What? You're quitting already?"
Isn't it too soon? Because it's only been a few months."
If you quit now, you'll be a quitter.

He said.

I thought it was a natural line.

It's a bit of a gusher, but I know exactly how they feel about saying that.

Because... it's been 5 months...(I was in my 3rd or 4th month or something when I consulted with him)

The job offer that was won after so much hard work.

It is such a waste to throw it away after 5 months.

I myself thought the same many times as everyone else.

It's too early to quit. If you quit now, you will have a habit of quitting and keep changing jobs.

You never know when you're in the habit of quitting! I thought I did, but I certainly thought I was quitting too soon.

The more I talked to him about it, the more it bothered him.

Yes, this is it.

But the more I talked to them, the more they told me I should quit.
Maybe I'm trying to make the wrong decision after all."
Maybe I should hold out a little longer and keep doing what I'm doing."
That's how I came to think of it.

I think my feelings were set in stone and I wanted to be pushed back.

But they didn't have my back as much as I thought they would, so I began to wonder if my thinking was wrong in the first place...and so on.

They weren't at fault at all and were probably thinking of me and giving me advice.

I knew that too.

I really appreciate everyone's kindness in comforting me when I was down.

But I gradually began to feel weighed down by the words that came back to me.

I was beginning to wonder, "Well, why am I asking for advice?" I was also beginning to wonder, "Why am I consulting with you?

Well... we're all on the same page.

But in the end, I didn't take their opinions into account and quit, pushing my own feelings.

I had a very hard time.

Here's the story of that time
How I feel] A true story that seems to be a lie. I talked to 7 bosses to resign and got the white eye - How I feel
The company I joined as a new graduate was an IT-related company, a black company with abnormally long working hours and a vertical society of seniors, bosses, and all hail the boss! It was a vertical society. (I heard that there are even worse black companies these days.)

What we have learned about who to consult with

Looking back over the past, I have finally settled on "my idea of a career change consultant.

Realizing that changing jobs is not a bad thing

I have successfully survived such job changes and have experienced three job changes in my working life so far.

And as I changed jobs, I began to see things.

That is, changing jobs is not evil.

Because I'm not a fan ofChanging jobs = bad. I had been thinking of it as such.

But as I kept changing jobs.Benefits gained by changing jobsI realized that changing jobs was not a bad thing, an escape, or anything else.

You should consult with the right person for your consultation.

This is the conclusion, though.

'Why then was I stressed every time I went through a series of consultations?'
I thought about it.

This is partly because, as mentioned earlier, they didn't have my back, but also because, in addition to thisBecause I wasn't clear on why they were denying me a career change.With.

(Then I should have told you not to ask for advice.)

What I'm trying to say is.Not everyone I talked to had been through a career change.

Yes! This is it. This is it.

It is not at all wrong to talk to a good friend or your boss in the dark. If you are having a hard time at work, you should talk about it with all your might.

But.It is a different story when it comes to a career change consultant.I thought so.

Now I can say to someone who was seriously struggling with the idea of quitting their job, "If you are having such a hard time, I think you should quit and change jobs.

I also learned about the benefits of changing jobs.

But if I were consulted in a situation where I had never changed jobs, as the world imagines.

  • Short-term job change = bad
  • If I change jobs, it's going to be even harder down the road.
  • This boy may surely have a hard time.

with that in mindMaybe you should reconsider quitting." Let's try a little harder."What might I have said?

I think I was saying what the world knows as my own advice because I have never experienced it.

I don't mean to speak ill of my friend.The person to consult must be changed according to the nature of the consultation.The content of the product must be considered more carefully. If the content is heavy, it must be considered more carefully.

Again, you should be gung-ho to talk to anyone about stress vomiting, complaining, etc. For your own mental health care.

How I feel - The importance of finding someone to talk to. Whether it's a stranger or a friend, talk and vent first - How I feel
I've been working too hard and it's about time...

However, I believe that you should choose someone who has experience with specific career changes, or someone who is likely to give you accurate advice, such as a professional.

I know that's not true! Sorry if you think... lol.

Oh, but don't go for someone who seems overly stoic. People who are stoic to themselves tend to demand stoicism from their partners as well.

You will only get harsh advice back.

If you want, you can consult a professional organization.

If you don't have such friends, acquaintances, or seniors around you.You can consult a professional organization.I think.

I would also be happy to go to a career change media company that can help mediate your job change for you to discuss your career.

(But they're in the business of mediation, so I'm sure they'll recommend you change jobs... Discernment is the key.)

If you find someone who can make a calm decision, consult with them, and talk with them, you will find yourself becoming clearer to yourself, and perhaps you will conclude that it is better to stay put and not change jobs after all.

Not all may share your feelings, and advice from someone who has had a failed career change may answer, "Don't change jobs.

However, the words of those with experience carry a different weight.

If you are told that it is too early to quit just because you have an image that it is better not to change jobs, it may not be clear to you and you may end up worrying even more.

So, by consulting with someone who has changed jobs or knows more about it.It could provide you with information you never thought about or didn't know about.I know, right?

This is what I thought after experiencing my career change so far.



  • The basic premise is that changing jobs is not evil.
  • If you're looking for advice on changing jobs, someone who has changed jobs is better.
  • Talking to an inexperienced career changer can lead to feelings that don't add up.
  • If you want accurate advice, go talk to a professional company.

This is just my experience, and I don't want to insist that you should "definitely do this!" I am not trying to insist that you should do it this way.

Not everything will come back to you with an opinion that will push you, but confiding in someone who has been through it is easier for them to empathize with you and make you feel better as you are in dire straits.

Please don't think too much in yourself and don't drive yourself into a corner, but please consult with those around you more and more.