Some people say, "My friend changed after studying abroad," "Studying abroad makes you stronger mentally," "Studying abroad changes your personality," "I'd rather study abroad to change myself, so I'll change..." Some people say, "My girlfriend is going to study abroad, but I'm worried she won't change," etc.The problem of personality change when you go abroad to study.
Actually, I have some experience with that.
I would like to discuss this in relation to my experience.
I've had a few people tell me that I've probably seriously changed.
Does going abroad change your personality? My Experience
Actually, I studied abroad for a very short time when I was a college student. It was super short, six weeks.
I came back from studying abroad and my boss at my part-time job told me
I was working part-time at a hotel at the time. I told them that I was going to study abroad for 6 weeks, so I was allowed to take a leave of absence from my part-time job.
So, a few days after I came back from studying abroad. When I got my part-time job back, I was told that my personality had changed.
The manager at my part-time job, who is casual and frank with me, has a few words to say.
You've changed.
He said.
At the time, I didn't react that much to the word, but looking back now, I think, "What? I think.
Because at the time, I was unaware of it.
When people say they have changed, I don't know what has changed. But I wonder. Maybe it looked bad.
I had developed feelings of irritation toward the manager, and I vaguely remember things getting awkward...maybe that's why he told me I had changed.
I was working two part-time jobs at the time before I studied abroad.
And one of the two part-time jobs is at this hotel.
My other part-time job was at a banquet hall. But I ended up quitting. I just felt unmotivated.
After studying abroad, I also worked at that banquet hall for a few days and returned to work for a while, but I felt it was something different.
I came back from studying abroad and broke up with my boyfriend.
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I'm not going to freak out anyone she's studying abroad from now on (or at this point in time)!
Because this is just my example, and everyone is unique.
Just because I was like that doesn't mean all girlfriends will be like that!
I broke up with a guy I was dating when I studied abroad because I kind of got tired of the relationship after studying abroad.
When I was studying abroad, you know, I made international calls and stuff (and I missed them because I never went out with them and didn't see them for a few weeks). I bought a prepaid card over there~.
I was allowed to use the phone at my homestay.
But my voice was so far away that I couldn't hear much.
I was homesick at the time - I think it was one of the things that helped me emotionally.
Oh, but I think my homesickness has gradually faded after a week and I've become more familiar with the area.
Then I came back and we had an emotional reunion.
But after a few days? A few weeks later? Uncomfortable.
This, I'm going to say something that doesn't make sense, okay?
Something about the smell bothered me. I wonder what it was. It wasn't a smell or anything.
I was really sensitive to the smell, and when we hugged, I was like, "Ugh.
It's very hard to describe. (I'm about to say something spicy, but, umm, my senses were rejecting it.)
something wrongwas terrific, wasn't it?
My thoughts on personality changes when you go abroad.
From the above experiences, I think, at this point in time, that
I am.
I have always had my own self-imposed ties or rules. I have always had my own self-imposed ties, or rules, or something like that.
There are a number of things that have to be done, and a number of things that have to be done to people. There are a number of things.
Then, when I went abroad, I thought, "Why would I change in such a short period of time? I think that when they went abroad, all their ties were blown away, and their way of thinking changed.
Gaman's stopper came loose? Loose? It feels like.
I wonder if studying abroad has made me more obedient to my own desires?
That in itself wasn't at all strange. I was playing a very serious character, so the gap may have been noticeable.
I think it is a very good thing to be free from ties, and it feels like you are gradually returning to your original self.
I think the less ties and rules you have, the more you can live your life as you like.
It was only for a short period of time, but after a week or two abroad, I felt as if I had been plunged into an abyss because of my poor English skills and my complete inability to communicate with the locals.
But at some point, I had a breakthrough.
I think it was about the second week or so. I think my pride was hurt so much at the time that it blew up somewhere else, and along with it, I think my ties and my rules also blew up.
I felt like, "I don't care..." The feeling grew.
It's like I don't care what they think of me. It's not so much that I'm desperate.
In fact, I'm a part-time manager at a hotel.
When someone said to me, "You've changed," I didn't respond, "What?" I think that says it all.
They don't care what people think anymore.
Hey... I just thought... this was a slight increase in self-esteem! Wasn't that a good sign?
Because I was in a state where I didn't care what people thought of me (that doesn't mean I was getting aggressive with people. It's like I was no longer freaked out by what people thought of me).
When you think about it.
I wondered if I would have been better suited to a foreign country. I also wondered if I was more suited to foreign countries. I don't want to be called a "foreigner" (laughs).
In the process, I wonder if I was able to shed some of my ties, and I guess I became that way because I was in an environment where I was able to shed my own ties.
I don't think people change that much in six weeks, but it's true that I was told that I've changed.
There must be something going on.
I thought that if it were for a longer period of time, say 5, 10, or 20 years, those who would change would change a lot.
Finally.
In the end, I would like to say that it is up to each person to change his or her personality after studying abroad, but the fact that there is so much talk about such a thing is a good thing.I think it means that a lot of people realized it.
I am no different.
Some people who feel oppressed in Japan may lose their stopper overseas, and some people who easily fit in may be stimulated and go crazy overseas.
I think I have a stopper coming off ... maybe.
