Thanks for your time.
What I want to talk about this time is, "I quit forcing myself to go back to my parents' house.
I've been stripping myself of my own self-imposed rules over the years, and going home to my parents is one of them.
Why did you think that? What did you actually do and what did you think? I would like to leave them here.
It's been quite a while since I moved out of my parents' house, but I've noticed that working people (especially those who live alone) who have moved away from their parents' homes often go home for New Year's or for holidays, even though their parents didn't ask them to.
I used to go back twice a year. Obon and New Year's.
The name of the trip was to visit the cemetery and to spend New Year's with my family.
Honestly, "I want to see my parents!" or "I miss my local friends! (although I did see my local friends when I went back home).
I tried to return once a year. This is like my rule.
Well, I also wanted to reassure my parents. Especially since my mother was on the lonely side.
So, I was able to return home every year because it was a door-to-door distance that I would be able to return home in roughly four hours, and the train ride gave me plenty of time to pass the time, so it was painless.
If it had taken half a day or a whole day, it might have been different.
I used to force myself to go home even if I thought, "I don't really want to go home...it's too much trouble.
And when I go home, I have nothing to do! And my parents' house is in a very rural area, so I can't go anywhere without a car.
You can't get anywhere without taking a bus or a cab.
After all, I stay at home: ！！！！
I don't have a house, Netflix or Amapura.
Anyway, I'm bored. Too much free time for meditation if you don't use your phone to pass the time or bring your laptop.
But recently, I've started planning to cut down on my "I have to" thinking.I am no longer forced to respond to LINE replies.is one of them.
If you reduce your ties, your daily happiness level will increase a little, won't it? The more patience we have, the more stress we accumulate.
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Even though I have a personality that is prone to stress and anxiety (I don't know about HSP), I don't want to act any more unnecessarily. (I don't know about HSP).
And I realized that in my case, my relationship with my parents is also largely incorporated into my mileage.
(I'd like to talk about this another time, but there's a little part of me that wasn't raised in a warm home, but my emotions are getting in the way...)
Now I leave when I feel like leaving.
I don't know, that's just the way it is in the first place. It is our freedom to leave or not to leave.
Customs? Custom? Should I go back to my parents' house? Should I show my face to my parents?It doesn't matter.
It's not mandatory, it's not obligatory, it's not an emergency, and it's up to you whether or not you want to leave.
So I do what I do when I feel from the bottom of my heart that it is time to go home.
And how I think now is that it's easy.
Well, it's easy. It's easy. It's physically easy, too.
I mean, I did it myself in the first place, so I just stopped doing it. My parents have never strongly told me to go home. I have never been strongly told to go home.
I was like, "I'm sorry, I didn't want to force you to leave.
I guess there are as many different circumstances as there are families, so there are times when you have to go home. (I would go home in an emergency, too.)
But it's like, if I had a choice, I would choose easy.
If you feel that you don't have time to spend at your parents' house or that going back home is a hassle, why don't you just not go back from the beginning? I think.