I'm still happy because there are people who have it harder than I do...
There are a lot of people who have it harder than I do, so I'm okay ...
There are many people who have it harder than I do, so I won't say it's hard...
Because this idea is bad!Quite dangerous: ！！！！
In addition, the
There are a lot of people who have it harder than you...
There are a lot of people who have it harder than you do, so hang in there...
And the people who say that are in trouble as well. ！！！！
In this article, I will share with you the end result (my experience) of this "there are people who have it harder than me" thinking in my work.
- Stories. I was having a hard time at work and I thought, "There are a lot of people having a harder time than me, so I'm going to do my best."
- Why were they thinking that way?
- The end of the road. I pushed myself to the limit and had a mental breakdown.
- Don't compare yourself to "those who are having a hard time".
Stories. I was having a hard time at work and I thought, "There are a lot of people having a harder time than me, so I'm going to do my best."
I've been through the black business and the corporate life, and maybe it has something to do with the fact that I'm in sales.Many of the people around me were stoic anyway.I guess so.
What kind of people were there?People who work overtime hours that are unbelievable, people who have contract disputes with clients, people who handle heavy entertainment, and people who perform tasks that to the casual observer would seem absolutely impossible! or those who perform tasks that are impossible to accomplish from the outside.
like thisThere were many heavyweight seniors and peers.
Probably.People in bad shape who no longer feel the pain of the general level.
Well, there are a lot of things that are hard when you are working, but not to the degree that...
I saw such people up close and personal, and what I was thinking when I felt myself in pain.
I'm so sorry, but I'm so sorry. But... that senior has overcome this hard work. ・・・・ and no, that senior is probably having a harder time than I am, and that boss will criticize me if I throw in the towel like this. ・・・・
I... I have to do it.
I was thinking "woohoo!
Every time I look at the seniors around me, I see that they too have been through this pain... they too have overcome it. ・・・・
When I thought about it, I realized that I was naive to think that it would be hard.
I don't want people to think I'm naive when they say I'm just a "relaxed" person! I was a bit stubborn at the time.
This idea was really bad... (but you didn't realize how bad this was at the time)
Why were they thinking that way?
I am aware that I am a "shindo...", so why was I so focused on other people's hard work and hardship?
There was a reason for that. (I only realized it later.)
I wanted to be appreciated from above by working as hard as others in a more difficult situation than myself.
When I'm having a hard time...I evaluated myself in comparison to others.I know, right?
I thought, "I have to work as hard as that person to be appreciated," even though each person's degree of hardship is different when compared to the hardships of others.
I wasn't really aiming for a raise, but I think I was trying to protect my position by being recognized.
Although I was contributing to the company when I was performing my duties, I think I was accepting excessive hardship there.
Quite a stoic idea, now that I think about it.
I was concerned about the way the people in pain were looking at me.
There were a lot of people in pain, and I was concerned about the way they looked at me.
I didn't have to go through the same pain as them (because they were only making themselves stoic by their own will), but I was thinking "I'm in a situation where I'm not in pain...what a pity..."...lol.
I also noticed the stares of people who are used to seeing people in pain.
Yes, a workplace full of people who are in a difficult situation or who are about to collapse from overloaded workloads is naturally a place where people around them are accustomed to seeing such people.
I was also concerned about the stares I was getting from those people who are used to seeing people in pain.
I mean, I said at the beginning.Desire to be valuedIt goes to theI was extremely concerned about the way all the people at work were looking at me.
Even if I had only done the work that I wasn't that burdened with, I was still pretty freaked out (probably) even though they weren't going to directly tell me ah...
The end of the road. I pushed myself to the limit and had a mental breakdown.
There are a lot of people out there who have it harder than I do, and I have to hang in there!I became stoic and pushed myself to the limit because I thought
To be precise.I was one step away from a mental breakdown.It's like.
At first, I thought, "My limit level has gone up! I thought, "My limit level has gone up!
But I was so mentally damaged that I couldn't even joke about it...
It was hard at work, I couldn't stop crying ...
I went as far as knocking on the door of a mental health clinic and ・・・・
Plus... he even worked on his days off...
And I quit, the company.
It is the end result of stoicism and self-discipline.
It's a sad one: ・・・・・
Oh, but I'm glad I quit, though, because I was liberated.
Don't compare yourself to "those who are having a hard time".
It is meaningless.
Yes, I have noticed. (I didn't realize it when I was pushing him)
Because first of all, each person has a different level of pain.
Thinking that if A can do the hard work, B can do it too.Huh?It's like that, isn't it?
The capacity for pain varies from person to person. It changes with one's original personality, the environment in which one has lived, and one's upbringing.
I've had a few different jobs in my life.I have often seen one person or a small group of "people having a hard time" become the standard of evaluation.
Some are doing the work they are supposed to be doing, and some are doing even harder work in addition to the work they are supposed to be doing.
In this case, if I had to choose which one to evaluate, it would be the latter....
That becomes the standard, and those around them start to push themselves harder and harder...or rather, they start to think, "I have to do that too," "I should do that," or "I have no choice but to do that.
But this is nothing but a negative spiral.
Employees want to quit, and in fact, I have seen a number of them quit.
I think it's wonderful that people work hard, but when the overworkedness of some people becomes the basis for evaluation, those around them become overloaded along with the rest of us.
So.It is a mistake to look at people who are having a hard time and try to do the same.
Nothing comes out of it but negativity.
We often hear that people are people and we are ourselves, but thinking that way is more difficult than we imagine.
So if you are so inspired by looking at others and saying, "I have to do my best, too," please think again.
You can talk to others or consult with an outside source so that you can see your current situation objectively. (In that case, talk to someone in a completely different environment than yours.)
It is quite important to talk to others and have them judge your current situation.
Don't mistake the contradiction between what you are working hard for and what you are working hard for.