The idea that there are many people who have it harder than you is pretty bad. I'll tell you the end result of being paralyzed in thinking by corporate livestock.

The idea that there are many people who have it harder than me is pretty bad. A story of how my thinking was bugged by corporate livestock.

It's absolutely wrong to compare yourself to someone who is having a harder time than you and think, "I have to work harder too." work
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I'm still happy because there are people who have it harder than I do...

There are a lot of people who have it harder than I do, so I'm okay ...

There are many people who have it harder than I do, so I won't say it's hard...

This idea is buggy.

In addition, the

There are a lot of people who have it harder than you...

There are a lot of people who have it harder than you do, so hang in there...

who say that they are buggy as well.

In this article, I will share with you the end result (my experience) of this "there are people who have it harder than me" thinking in my work.

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Stories. I was having a hard time at work and I thought, "There are a lot of people having a harder time than me, so I'm going to do my best."

I've been through the black business and the corporate life, and maybe it has something to do with the fact that I'm in sales.The people around me are just...Stoic.was manyI guess so.

What kind of people were there?People who work overtime hours that are unbelievable, people who have contract disputes with clients, people who handle heavy entertainment, and people who perform tasks that to the casual observer would seem absolutely impossible! or those who perform tasks that are impossible to accomplish from the outside.

like thisThere were many heavyweight seniors and peers.

Probably.People in bad shape who no longer feel the pain of the general level.

Well, there are a lot of things that are hard when you are working, but not to the degree that...

I saw such people up close and personal, and what I was thinking when I felt myself in pain.

It's so hard, so hard, so hard. But that senior has overcome this hard work, and that senior is probably having a harder time than I am, and my boss will criticize me if I give up like this.

I was thinking "woohoo!

Every time I look at the seniors around me, I see that they too have been through this pain... they too have overcome it. ・・・・

When I thought about it, I realized that I was naive to think that it would be hard.

I was told that I was "mature, mature, mature," but at the time I had a mysterious stubbornness that I didn't want people to think I was naive.

Why were they thinking that way?

I am aware that I am a "shindo...", so why was I so focused on other people's hard work and hardship?

There was a reason for that. (I only realized it later.)

I wanted to be appreciated from above by working as hard as others in a more difficult situation than myself.

When I'm having a hard time...I evaluated myself in comparison to others.I know, right?

I thought, "I have to work as hard as that person to be appreciated," even though each person's degree of hardship is different when compared to the hardships of others.

I wasn't really aiming for a raise, but I think I was trying to protect my position by being recognized.

Although I was contributing to the company when I was performing my duties, I think I was accepting excessive hardship there.

And because of this, I began to feel a bug about overtime work.

I was concerned about the way the people in pain were looking at me.

There were a lot of people in pain, and I was concerned about the way they looked at me.

I didn't have to go through the same pain as them (because they were only making themselves stoic by their own will), but I was thinking "I'm the only one in the situation who is not in pain...what a pity..." lol.

I also noticed the stares of people who are used to seeing people in pain.

Yes, a workplace full of people who are in a difficult situation or who are about to collapse from overloaded workloads is naturally a place where people around them are accustomed to seeing such people.

I was also concerned about the stares I was getting from those people who are used to seeing people in pain.

I mean, I said at the beginning.Desire to be valuedIt goes to theI was extremely concerned about the way all the people at work were looking at me.

Even if I had only done the work that I wasn't that burdened with, I would have been pretty freaked out (probably) even though they weren't going to tell me directly that I was ah-ha.

The end of the road. I pushed myself to the limit and had a mental breakdown.

There are a lot of people out there who have it harder than I do, and I have to hang in there!I became stoic and pushed myself to the limit because I thought

I was one step away from a mental breakdown.It's like.

At first, I thought, "My limit level has gone up.
But I was so mentally damaged that I couldn't even joke about it...

It was so hard at work that I couldn't stop crying (terminal).

Knocking on the Mental Clinic's DoorI went up to and ・・・・

And...And I was even working on my days off....

And I quit, the company.

My health was getting super bad and I thought I was going to bust any more.forced terminationIt is.

It is the end result of stoicism and self-discipline.I began to ignore the voice of my heart and go out to my body.

Oh, but I'm glad I quit, though, because I was liberated.

Don't compare yourself to "those who are having a hard time".

It is meaningless.It was pointless.

And I realized that I was. (I didn't notice it when I was pushing him)

Because first of all, each person has a different level of pain.

If A can do the hard work, then B can do it, too. right?

The capacity for pain varies from person to person. It depends on one's personality, environment, and upbringing.

I've had a few different jobs in my life.I have often seen one person or a small group of "people having a hard time" become the standard of evaluation.

Some are doing the work they are supposed to be doing, and some are doing even harder work in addition to the work they are supposed to be doing.

In this case, if I had to choose which one to evaluate, it would be the latter....

That becomes the standard, and those around them start to push themselves harder and harder...or rather, they start to think, "I have to do that too," "I should do that," or "I have no choice but to do that.

But this is nothing but a negative spiral.

Employees want to quit, and in fact, I have seen a number of them quit.

I think it's wonderful that people work hard, but when the overworkedness of some people becomes the basis for evaluation, those around them become overloaded along with the rest of us.

So.I thought it would be a mistake to look at people who are having a hard time and try to do the same.

It's like.

It was the end of the day when I felt that looking at those around me and thinking that I had to work harder was destroying me.

I don't want to work hard for nothing, and I don't want to get the contradiction of working hard wrong - right?

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