Relationships and feeling uncomfortable." Don't miss the "I feel uncomfortable" sign! Don't miss it!

Everyone has felt the discomfort.

But for some people it's disgust, or it's not that disgusting, but something is stuck.

This is super important.

I even added one more darkness to my life because I ignored this... lol.

This time, I'd like to share with you the importance of discomfort! I will talk about this based on my own experience.

Never ignore discomfort... it is a sign of your heart.

I don't know... I don't feel comfortable with this person...

He's a nice guy, but I don't feel comfortable...

He's a sweet guy, friendly, but not comfortable...

Have you ever felt something like that?

I, too, have.(I've been ignoring it for quite a while now...LOL)

I wish I could say that the characteristics of people who feel uncomfortable are... but I can't say this in general.

because Discomfort = mental sensorwellYou are the only one who knows.

Yes, so it doesn't matter what is right or wrong in the world.

I'm going to say something important now.

There is often information about "characteristics of people who feel uncomfortable," but I think that is a meaningless idea. Because you are the one who feels discomfort.

It's not about the other party.

Because it's you, because of your past.Because it's your sensitivity that makes you feel so uncomfortable!

For example, there is a person named A.

You feel uncomfortable with Mr. A. But Mr. C does not feel any discomfort toward Mr. A. In other words, from your point of view, Mr. A is a "characteristic of a person who feels uncomfortable," but Mr. C does not feel anything.

Therefore, we cannot rely on the characteristics of people who feel discomfort; no matter how suspicious Mr. A is, there are people who do not feel that he is suspicious. It depends on how we perceive the situation.

So the most important barometer is whether or not your mind is zoned out.

Of course, there are times when both you and Mr. C feel uncomfortable; there are times when Mr. C feels uncomfortable with Mr. A and you feel nothing.

I think this is a very important idea.

If you feel uncomfortable, it means something is stuck for you (i.e., don't go any further! Run away!) I think that means.

My Dark Past. Ignoring the discomfort (mind sensors) led to a catastrophe.

After realizing that discomfort is important...I suddenly found myself comparing it to my past.

thenI have had many experiences that have convinced me that this is really true.

The uncomfortable situations were mainly activated in relationships.

Experience 1: The ties that bind

When I met a certain person, I thought to myself, "Oh, this person has a peculiar personality..." and for a moment I was ready.

I don't dislike quirky people per se, but it was the quirkiness of the genre that I didn't like.

But I didn't have many friends at the time, and I wanted to increase my relationships as much as possible, so I decided to continue my relationship with that person.

As a result, we learn that he had the worst personality.

(I've already cut ties with him.)

Note that to me, that person is the worst personality. For others, that person could be a good personality.

And this is what the discomfort I had felt since we first met was telling me. ・・・・

My heart felt that it might be too subtle to continue the relationship any longer, but my head was thinking that it was because I didn't have many friends.

I could be involved with all kinds of people from now on. I was strangely thinking, "It would be a waste if I cut ties here," lol.

Worst ！！！！！

Words like "what a waste" and "it's just fate" sometimes cloud our judgment.

Certainly the relationship is important.

But I believe that you should let go of any relationship that feels uncomfortable.

Because I don't want to be associated with someone who thinks I'm "eh ・・・・・・・".

Experience 2: I wanted to experiment to see how uncomfortable it felt.

I also had an "ah-ha" moment rather recently, didn't I?

I met someone online.

At first I thought, "He seems polite, sensible, and kind," and then I thought, "Does he like me as a person (regardless of the opposite sex)? I thought, "Is he liking me as a person (without regard to the opposite sex)?

But.I felt somehow uncomfortable.

Yes, somewhat (but this is important).

Conversation, what an atmosphere.

I can't explain exactly how I felt. I can't explain it, but at any rate, I felt uncomfortable.

(It's a matter of sensitivity. It's hard to explain...)

And this time I did not miss the discomfort and looked at the situation based on my past experience.

I like to experiment with everything (but that doesn't mean I do anything on purpose or anything weird like that).

I treated them normally.

And... the result was still the same.I was like, hmmm.

But maybe there is a case like this ↓.

Like the porasebo effect that

But, frankly, I don't think the placebo effect has much to do with it.

BecauseIn the first experience, I was not thinking, "This is going to end badly, as usual.

Regardless of the placebo, I don't know what it was, but that's the way it turned out (I knew he was a thing).

Experience 3: Discomfort with the company felt during the interview

I think there are a lot of people who have felt this. There are some, aren't there?

I think there are all kinds of uncomfortable feelings. There are things that are said in a decent way, but they are still disturbing...or there is a strange atmosphere that you don't even need to feel with your heart.

(When I was a part-time worker, I went to an interview thinking it would be an easy customer service job, but in fact it was an erotic one.)

So, what I want to talk about here is the discomfort I felt during the interview when I was changing jobs.

The salary was good, and I was eager to earn money, so I was rather excited to go for the job, but I thought it was going to be a bad idea.

I am not sure if my head worked or my heart worked. But the people seemed to be scared anyway. Conversation was otherwise normal, and the atmosphere was friendly. But anyway, there was a mysterious "ummm..." emotion swirling around.

Then we proceeded to the second round of interviews and met with the head of the company.

Again, I thought, "That looks kind of scary..." I was smiling, though. I was smiling, though.

Come to think of it, I felt this fear when I made my first visit to a mental health clinic. (Click here to read about my experience during my first visit to Menkriti.)

So then I got a call from that company because of my mistake. (I did not cause any damage to the other company)

I was so mad, I didn't expect him to yell at me.

It's my fault, 100% my fault, but I honestly don't think I did anything worth getting yelled at for. So I'm glad I didn't go here.

Oh, but what about. Is it normal to be yelled at...?

I think it is natural to get angry when you make a mistake. But is it normal to be yelled at? I pull back...

Once you're in the workforce, you say, "If the new guy quits, we get paid less! Do you understand? I had developed a bit of a tolerance for this since I was yelled at when I was leaving my job...Stories of when I infuriated my boss when I resigned.(click here)

I have lived for over 30 years and feel that I should follow my "heart" and not my head.

Feelings are... important. ・・・・

Move according to your heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!You say.

This is not self-help or anything, but it is really true, and I think it is true after living for more than 30 years.

Because it's me.The sensor works.

Because it's you.The sensor works.

So, as I told you earlier, for example, if someone called Mr. A was in front of you and me, I would not feel uncomfortable with Mr. A, but you would feel uncomfortable with Mr. A.

This is ！！！！！！！！ It's ！！！！！

At that point, when you find out that I don't feel any differently about Mr. A, you might think, "Maybe I'm just imagining things."Don't miss that part!!!!

Why do I feel uncomfortable?Others will never know!

There is no need to wonder, "Am I being weird?" There is no need to wonder, "Am I being weird?

I think the discomfort you feel in a relationship is a "don't get involved" signal that you can sense because it is you.

I think so. It's not the right signal for me, like.

As I mentioned earlier in my testimonial.

I am a person whose history of darkness has increased with thoughts such as, "Maybe I am thinking too much," "I am tired," "That person seems strange but seems nice," "I don't have many friends, so I want to increase my number as much as possible.

Finally.

So we talked about relationships and discomfort.

It is very important, so I recommend that you catch even the slightest discomfort and live your life according to your heart.

Thank you for reading to the end today: ！！！！！