The idea that there are many people who have it harder than you is pretty bad. I'll tell you the end result of being paralyzed in thinking by corporate livestock.

It was a shock. The reason why I insulated myself from my close friends. (Countdown to severance)

It was a shock. How the countdown to abstinence began with my longtime best friend. Relationship
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As a result, I'm now thinking that this was the right thing to do.

Let me share a very shocking experience with you.

This is the story of how I cut off contact with a friend who was a good friend. (I unilaterally faded out.)

It is truly a state of insulation and abstinence. As an adult, I did.

We were male friends, we lived in the same hometown, we drank regularly, went to theme parks, and were just good and trusted friends. I took the liberty of thinking of him as my best friend. (I don't know if the other guy thought so or not)

But in one public place, he said something harsh to me, and that's when I thought, "Oh my God, I can't do this anymore.

The key is this "already."

In fact, I had felt uncomfortable before, saying, "This guy is a little out of line....

But at the time I tried to ignore that discomfort.

Because I didn't want to have a delicate relationship with that friend. Because I don't have many friends.

Looking back, I think this must have been the turning point. The countdown to the end of our relationship began at this point.

And, you know, there were numerous other discomforts. LOL.

He would never behave in a way he does to any of his female friends except me. (He is harsh only to me.)

Every time I did, I thought, "Huh?" I thought, "What?

You definitely don't act like that to XX-chan, do you? Huh?" He definitely wouldn't behave like that or verbally abuse any of his female friends except me!" And. Haha.

'No, you're being hard on me, you're making me feel closer to you!' and you might be able to see it in a mysterious positive light, but when it comes to ranting, the meaning is different.

Oh...

I want to say to you, "You've got to realize that!!!!!!!! I want to say to my then.

Despite all the discomfort I've felt in the past with this male friend, we've continued our relationship.

Then one day, something shocking was finally said.

I'm screwed. ・・・・ I'm only going to make a dent in myself if I continue the relationship any longer...

I stopped contacting him myself, and when he did contact me, I tried to end the conversation immediately with a single stamp or something like that.

Eventually, the other party stopped contacting me, and I think I felt like the relationship was over.

I would be happy if they had noticed this attitude of mine.

It's possible that he's probably thinking to me, "You got a guy, that's why you don't call me." lol.

Well, it doesn't matter.

To backtrack a bit, when I thought I was "screwed," I thought, "Why don't I first tell the other person how I feel about my complicated feelings? I also thought, "Why don't I tell them how I feel?

I'm hurt! Stop it!!!!" It might have been worth it to say.

But of the many uncomfortable feelings I've experienced before, one thing I said back to him when he made a remark that I don't think that's a bit of a stretch.

I told them what I thought, rather softly, but in a way that would not offend them.

I don't think I was right, but I wanted my friends to understand how I felt right in front of them.

But as a result, he snapped at me. He said something like, "You are not my friend to say such a thing," which put me in a very bad mood! I was in a very bad mood!

I thought, "Hey, hey, hey....

To top it all off, he even said, "You're not my friend for saying that.

GAHHHHHH!!!! I was laughing!

It was like my heart was broken.

At this point I guessed, "Oh... nothing I say will work. They don't even accept my opinion.

I should have kept my distance at the time, but I ended up slavishly continuing to be friends and then ignoring the discomfort.

It seems that the end of the story has finally arrived this time.

I really trusted him and he was a fun friend, but he just wasn't a good fit for me.

Do you have such an experience?

What's the definition of a friend in the first place? What is a true best friend? What is a true friend?

I thought about that for a bit.

My first thought from this experience was, "I don't think I should have the same attitude toward everyone at all, but people who are normal to other friends but sometimes say horrible things to me are not my friends.

And a friendship lasts as long as both parties are able to contact each other occasionally, and both parties want to continue the relationship. And if one of us feels that we can't, that's when the friendship ends.

This is just my opinion. I think this is true not only for friends but also for all relationships. With this standard in mindOrganize line contacts and such.And I did.

I think the definition of a best friend is a relationship in which we can talk openly, respecting both the good and bad points of the other person, and make up after a fight. Even so, I think both parties want to be friends forever, don't they?

I think I was, you know, taking their subtlety and putting it in, but when they said, "If you say that, we're not friends," I already knew that they wouldn't respect my opinion, even if I could talk to them openly.

I couldn't do it at that point anymore. I was through with it, with my feelings.

So I told you the story of how I faded out, or rather cut off contact, with a good friend.

I don't know that this was the right choice.

It's not that they were wrong, it's just that they didn't fit with me.

I guess I prioritized my own "good mood" as a result. If I had continued the relationship, I would have felt bad again sooner or later.

So I am happy with the outcome.

Thank you for reading to the end today: !!!!

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